Fear Elimination

I had a magical meandering conversation with a lovely friend of mine today in the park.

One of the things we were discussing was: achievement. And, what drives achievement. 

I was reflecting upon my childhood, and the factors that drove my desire to achieve back then. I realized they were all within the realms of people pleasing - pleasing my parents by getting A's and winning piano competitions, pleasing my teachers by practicing / doing my homework, and... well, those were the main things I spent my time on in my childhood, to be honest. :) 

Now, my motivations have become quite different. I have shifted to what feels like a bigger picture. Now, my desire to achieve all falls within the focus of fulfilling my 'purpose' in this world - doing the thing(s) on this earth that only I can/will do. 

As New-Age or 'hippie-dippie' as it may sound, I truly believe that every human being on this earth has the perfect potential to fulfill something (or, some things) that nobody else could ever fulfil. 

Martha Graham, an incredibly fascinating and innovative choreographer, has a beautiful quote about this topic: 

"...Because there is only one of you in all of time, this [creative] expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost." 

Whether your unique 'creative' expression is to tend a farm in a small community, own a hotel, be a yoga teacher, write a novel, take care of dolphins, research bats, or write an album... that thing can only be done in that particular way by you, and nobody else.

And the funny thing is - as much as we hum and haw about finding our 'calling' and being unsure of our 'purpose'... I think, most of the time, we actually know exactly what it is we should be doing. The hard part is actually doing the thing.

Which leads me to the next pathway in our park conversation: What is the secret to doing things?

It seems to me that, simple and cliche as it may sound, Nike may have had the answer all along:

Just do it.

I don't know that there is any other trick or secret to it. 

I have heard the same thing from so many different sources:

If you want to run a marathon, get some shoes and a running outfit ready at the door, set your alarm, wake up in the morning, and run. Then: lather, rinse, repeat.

If you want to be a songwriter, write a song. Then, write another song.

...Lather, rinse, repeat. 

You become what you repeatedly do. 

So, if it's that simple, why is it that we have such a hard time doing the things that we want to / know we should be doing?

In my humble opinion, it seems to me that the leading character in the show of not doing things is:

FEAR.

That big ol' F word is the one thing that keeps us from doing the things we know that we should be doing. 

So, what are we afraid of? Failing? Making a fool of ourselves? Creating something subpar? Being judged/criticized for what we did/created/made?

Probably all of those things. 

But in the grand scheme of things, how do those things compare to the possibility of a potential creative/human expression being lost forever? 

I'll let you gnaw on that one. And I'll also say:

I am so excited about continuing this journey of fear elimination. I have absolutely no desire to let even an inkling of fear direct any sliver of my life anymore. 

This blog is one of the many steps in this process of fearlessness. With just "a drop a day" - one itty bitty droplet in a massive bucket of consciousness... I hope to shed all the layers of fear, one by one... 

And I invite you to join me!

With much love,

Kathryn

 

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  • Jennifer Cameron

    Jennifer Cameron Minden, Ontario

    "Fearlessness is an accounting trick. You feel the fear; you just defer it." Elizabeth McCracken "How much fear controls your life determines whether your life is awesome or not. I stood on a cliff paralyzed with fear, then I jumped and felt the terror of falling - followed by the exhilaration of having conquered my fear." Jennifer Cameron "Leave a legacy of love, not a legacy of fear." Shannon L. Alder

    "Fearlessness is an accounting trick. You feel the fear; you just defer it." Elizabeth McCracken
    "How much fear controls your life determines whether your life is awesome or not. I stood on a cliff paralyzed with fear, then I jumped and felt the terror of falling - followed by the exhilaration of having conquered my fear." Jennifer Cameron

    "Leave a legacy of love, not a legacy of fear." Shannon L. Alder

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